Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Accept Yourself and Improve Self-Esteem Doing a Simple Exercise: It Takes Less Than 10 Seconds

People with low self-esteem always find fault with themselves while people with healthy esteem are aware of their shortcomings but still accept themselves as they are and do not worry too much about their weaknesses. This article talks about a technique which can help us start accepting ourselves fully and loving ourselves despite out shortcomings so that our self-esteem improves.

I happened to stumble upon a good technique to improve our self esteem and accept ourselves as we are with our strengths and weaknesses.

The real secret to healthy self-esteem is that we should be able to accept and like ourselves despite our weaknesses and shortcomings. This is easier said than done, so here is a technique which should make you accept yourself for who you are.

I read this technique at some website and instantly liked the idea behind it. Lets call this the 'mirror technique'.

Everyday, stand in front of the mirror and look directly into your own eyes. While staring at your eyes say the following words with conviction:

"I completely and deeply love and accept myself just the way as I am right now".

Say the above words with strong feelings and conviction. It may not help much if you just say the words mechanically. Repeat 3-5 times.

Do the above exercise every morning and also in the evening. After a few days you may start noticing that your self-esteem is really improving, you are starting to accept yourself along with your weaknesses and still going on in life with a happy and positive attitude.

Your relationships with other people may start improving because a person with a low self-esteem cannot keep proper relations with people. His/her insecurities, fears etc. get in the way and may spoil relations with others.

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Tuesday, February 27, 2007

How to stay motivated towards your goals

Most of us begin our goals with zest and enthusiasm but may feel our spirits dampening along the way. We sometimes need a push to stay motivated with regards to our goals.

I am presenting below some strategies to help stay focussed and motivated towards achieving what we set out to achieve.


1. Put a little pressure on yourself:
Tell your family, friends, colleagues, neighbours etc. that you want to achieve so and so thing by such and such date. This can put pressure on yourself to really try hard and achieve the goal by the said date so that you do not feel embarrassed in front of others. A little pressure may be a good thing.



2. Decide a punishment for yourself:
Fix a punishment for yourself if you fail to do something that is required of you. For example - if you decided to walk for 30 minutes daily in order to maintain your fitness, and one fine day you do not feel like getting out of your bed for the daily walk, tell yourself that if you do not get up within the next 15 or so minutes then you are going to punish yourself by not eating breakfast today.

Decide on a punishment that is unpleasant for you but not too harsh. Try to avoid extremes.



3.Invest in your goals:
Another technique is to invest some amount of money in your goals so that you are forced to stay motivated. If your goal is to do a workout everyday for an hour - buy a new pair of shoes or buy some new track suit to wear while exercising. Or else buy some new clothes which you can only wear if you lose some weight. Spending some money on your goals should force you to keep working on your desired goal.



4. Break goals into smaller parts:
If you have a long term goal break it into smaller parts. Break each goal into small actionable steps which you can do everyday. We humans like some feedback on how we are progressing. By dividing your goal into smaller parts, you are setting up an effective feedback mechanism to measure your progress.

If your goal is to write a book within a year, then have goals to write atleast 1 chapter every month. Have further goals to write for a specified amount of time every day and commit yourself to it daily.



5. Focus on benefits:
We tend to move away from pain and move towards pleasure. While in pursuit of a goal there may be some actions which we may not feel comfortable doing and may try to avoid them. For such things instead of focussing on the activity itself, think about the benefits of doing that activity.

For example - if you don't feel like jumping out of your bed for your daily jogging routine, focus on the benefits that jogging might bring you like better health, a healthy heart, physical stamina, more enjoyable life, fun with family etc. By focussing on the benefits, you are associating jogging with pleasure rather than pain. If you do this long enough then you may no longer feel difficulty in getting up for your morning jog.



6. Apply five more rule:
Whenever you are doing some important activity and feel tempted to give it up, do FIVE MORE. Read FIVE more pages, work for FIVE more minutes, do FIVE more math problems etc. By implementing this strategy, you are pushing past your present mental and physical barriers and setting new limits for yourself.


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Friday, February 23, 2007

Blogging contest

I have been making very less posts from the past few days. It is mainly because I am currently taking part in a blogging contest which runs for one month till March 15 2007. So I have been a little busy with the contest. But still I will try and make a few posts each week, only the number of posts may decrease by a little.

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Nervousness and Public Speaking - Are you feeling anxious about an upcoming speech?

Are you feeling anxious about a speech you have to make? Do you want to learn how to get rid of public speaking fears that are haunting you?

Here are a few simple tips to help you handle your anxiety and prepare well for your speech or presentation:

Tip #1:
Rehearse in front of a mirror - rehearse your body language, facial expressions, gestures, voice tone, speech delivery etc. before your presentation. By watching yourself in mirror you can know what you are doing wrong and can change that. Keep rehearsing in this fashion till you are satisfied with your performance. You may feel that you do not feel that much afraid now to walk up to the stage.


Tip #2:
Speak to one person at a time. While giving the speech, focus on one individual at a time. Look at different people during your speech, but at any given time just focus on one particular person giving him/her all your attention and imagine you are having a one-to-one conversation with just that person. You may find that you do not feel the nervousness that you would have otherwise felt if you delivered the speech with the mindset of speaking to the whole audience instead of just one person at a time.


Tip #3:
Remeber to take a deep breaths every now and then. Deep breathing helps you relax, so practise deep breathing just before starting your speech and also ocasionally during it. Relax your tense muscles and keep your face relaxed because the face leads the way for the whole body. If your face is relaxed your whole body tends to follow suit. On the other hand if your face is tense and has a frown, you will feel more tension in your whole body.



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How to save money

Here is a very good tip I found at daytipper.com. This tip can be useful for people who are unemployed and want to cut down on their expenses.

To cut down on your expenses, keep a spending log. Track your spending - those lunches out, the online shopping, fuel expense for the long drives etc. By keeping track of your spending activities throughout the day, you can become aware of which expenses are essential and which can be avoided. You can then effectively lower your expenses at a time when you are waiting for your next job or even while you are in a well paying job (who doesn't want to save a few bucks).


Isn't this a cool advice to become aware of our spending habits and cut down our expenses? What is your opinion on this?


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Tips to improve stamina








I have always been interested in finding ways to increase my stamina so that I can do more physical feats and work harder without getting tired. In my quest to find means to improve my stamina, I have found a few exercises which can be really very helpful in this regard.

1. Skipping:
Start small. Skip for some time - as long as you feel comfortable. Each week try to increase the duration a little.This can have a good effect on increasing your stamina.


2. Running on the Spot:
Run on the spot for a set period of time, like 2 minutes to start with. Later as days pass by you can increase it to maybe 5 minutes etc.



3. Swimming:
Swimming is a very good exercise as you already must be knowing. If you make a habit to swim atleast 30 minutes everyday it can do wonders to your stamina.


4. Cycling:
This is another very good exercise for increasing stamina vastly. All the above mentioned exercises not only improve our stamina, they come with a wide range of other health benefits too.

I hope that I include many of the above exercises in my daily schedule for a long time to come.What about you?

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Saturday, February 17, 2007

How to Improve Communication Skills & Become More Assertive By Giving Up Just 1 Habit

The secret to getting better at communication skills and becomeing more assertive is to let go of the need for people's approval. When you no longer need their approval, your nervousness will fade away and you begin to feel free to express your desires and opinions.

As you start to express yourself more freely, you come across as a charismatic person. Letting go of the habit of seeking people's approval will also make you more assertive, you will be able to say no when you want to.

When you constantly seek approval and acceptance, you place yourself in a position of weakness while interacting with people. It destroys your peace of mind, drains your energy,makes you tongue-tied and afraid to speak out your mind in front of others.

However this doesn't mean that you should give a damn about other people. Ofcourse you have to be considerate about people and behave in a responsible manner. But at the same time, you should stop trying to please all people at all times, and start saying things which you really think and feel rather than what others want to hear.

Does this all make sense to you? If it does, lets move on to the important question:how do I give up this habit?

The below given exercises should help you to a certain degree, if you practise them seriously.

Exercise 1:
The first step to overcome this habit is to become aware while you are doing it. This exercise is to help you become more aware.

For the next several days, whenever you catch yourself saying or doing something to please others, stop right in your tracks - freeze. Then instead of that do or say something which you really want to.

Monitor yourself in this fashion for 2-3 weeks and change your behaviour whenever you find yourself seeking other's approval. Initially it may seem difficult, but with practise you can soon begin to develop the habit of acting according to your own will.


Exercise 2:
This is a fun exercise which can also serve as a feedback tool for how well you are progressing.

For the next few weeks, whenever you have interacted with someone, give yourself + or -- points depending on your interaction. If you were able to speak or act according to your will, give yourself positive points ranging from +1 to +10. However if you could not muster up the courage and acted out of fear of people, give yourself negative points from -1 to -10. Keep a sheet of paper with you with date written on top of it and keep adding your + and - points to that sheet. At the end of the day calculate your total score. This will give you an idea about how you fared during the day and will also motivate you to improve yourself further tomorrow.


If you follow the above 2 exercises for a few weeks, you may notice considerable improvement in your behaviour. You may start interacting with people with new found freedom, courage, confidence and assertiveness. Your bold attitude may win you admirers and drive away your social phobias. If you feel discomfort in social settings, suffer from social phobia and want to overcome it, check out this resource: Beat Social Anxieties & Do Not Be Prisoner of Your Own Thoughts


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Monday, February 12, 2007

3 Simple Diet Changes to Skyrocket Your Energy Levels

Poor diet can drain your mental and physical energy. If you fill your body with junk food, it can even affect your moods and mental clarity besides affecting your digestive system. It has been said that the digestive system in the human body consumes most of our energy for digesting food. Therefore it follows that the less burden we place on our digestive system, the less energy it consumes and more energy will be available at our disposal.

Below are given simple diet changes you can make in order to overcome lethargy, become more active, healthy and also boost your immunity.

Tip #1: Eat more salad:
Eat a lot of fresh fruits, vegetables and grains. Start having more salad at every meal that you eat. This should not be hard for you to do, and you can notice considerable difference after just a few weeks of including more salad, fruits and grains in your everyday diet.



Tip #2: Increase juice intake:
Drink fresh fruit juices and make this a part of your everyday diet. Ideally, fruit should be eaten raw, with its skin or with the skin peeled off on an empty stomach or 20 minutes before meals. But if you are not so keen on eating fruits, the second best method would be to squeeze its juices. This way you can get used to enjoying the benefits of fruits, and with time your appetite for raw fruits may increase.



Tip #3: Do not eat your fill:
This is very important. While eating, finish your meals with just a bit of room left in your stomach. Eating till you fill your stomach will put a lot of burden on the digestive system & drain a lot of your energy.

Did you ever notice how sleepy and lazy you feel after a heavy meal? Avoid heavily stuffing your stomach, instead, make a habit of not eating before you feel very hungry and stop eating before you have filled you belly. Research has shown that 6 small meals a day can better for health than 3 big ones. Always be kind to your stomach.


If you make the above 3 changes to your diet, and keep at it for a few weeks, you may soon notice a surge in your energy levels and mental alertness, enjoy immunity boost and radiant health. All the best!

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Sunday, February 11, 2007

How to write faster and better

Let us discuss some ways of how you can write better and faster. Whatever it is you want to write - whether an exam paper, article for magazines, newspapers, writing a book etc., the tips here should help you put your in putting your thoughts on paper.

Step 1:
The first step is to list down all the important points you want to make in your article. Go through the list in detail so that you do not miss any important point. You may just write down a keyword or phrase to remind you of the point, no need to write complete sentences at this point of time.


Step 2:
After listing all the points, arrange them in a logical sequence now - which point should come first, which should come next etc.
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Step 3:
You have now done the preparation work for writing the article. It has been said that effective people spend more time on preparation than on doing the actual work. You now have the outline of the article. The remaining steps should now be simple to implement.

Start going through each point in your list and explain them in a brief manner. Try to make the explanations as brief as possible because the readers may not have enough patience to read if the article is too lengthy.1-3 short paragraphs for each point should do the job. But make sure that you have made your point clear, do not sacrifice clarity for the sake of being brief.

#While explaining the points, make sure that you write down as fast as you can. Writing down fast can help prevent mental blocks. Do not worry about spelling mistakes, grammatical errors etc. at this stage (you can correct the errors in #Step6). The trick is to write fast without thinking much, if you think too much then you are likely to get stuck. Just focus on explaining each point and moving on to the next point. Focus on completing the task at hand.


Step 4:
Make sure that your article has appropriate headings, sub-headings or sections for easier readability. Many people just scan through articles without reading them in full. By dividing the article in sub-headings and highlighting them, you are making it easier for people to scan through the article as they can read in detail whatever point interests them and skip the rest.


Step 5:
Only after finishing the article,try giving it a suitable title. It is not recommended to begin with a title as that may restrict your thinking to just the title. Its better to think of the title at the end, then it is more likely to be a suitable one for your article.


Step 6:
Re-read the article. Make any desired changes, improvements etc. Check for spelling mistakes or grammatical errors and correct them. You can keep re-reading and revising your article till you are satisfied. Finally you should be ready with your article. Congrats! (By the way, I used this same 6-step method of writing this article, and it took me less than 10 minutes to finish it).


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Suffering From Poor Sleep Quality? Keep a Sleep Diary for Better Sleep

Do you suffer from poor sleep quality? If you do, then you probably are not alone. A lot of people nowadays, even youngsters suffer from lack of quality sleep and irregular sleep patterns.

Not just the quantity, but the quality of sleep is also very important. Lack of quality sleep can result in illnesses and other problems over time. So you have to pay attention and realize the importance of quality of sleep.

So how to improve sleep quality?
If you have trouble falling asleep at night, or do not have regular sleeping pattern then the following technique should be very useful. Keep in mind that you would need to follow this technique atleast for a few weeks in order to see some good results.

The technique is simple and involves maintaining a sleep diary. A sleep diary helps you to monitor your sleeping pattern and become aware of irregular sleep schedule and bad sleeping habits. Becoming aware is the first step to developing better sleep habits.


In your sleep diary you should make note of the following things daily. The more detail you add in your diary, the better:

1. What food you had for dinner?
2. Did you drink something after dinner?
3. When did you retire to bed?
4. How long did it take you to finally sleep?
5. Had you taken any naps during the day? If yes, how many and for how long?
6. What time did you wake up in the morning?
7. How fresh did you feel on waking up in the morning?
8. How would you rate the quality of your sleep on a scale of 1-10?
9. Did you get up anytime during the night? If so, how many times?
10. Do you follow almost the same sleeping and waking up schedule everyday?
12. Is the room where you sleep at night dark and comfortable?
13. Does your mattress and pillow feel comfortable?
14. Any further observations you might like to add.

Sleep diary can give you very powerful information regarding your sleep habits and sleep, wake schedule.

When you maintain it for a few weeks, you shall soon notice a pattern emerging. Once armed with the knowledge, you can take steps to start developing healthy sleeping habits.

Sleep diary can help you in the following ways:
1.It provides you valuable information about your sleep patterns and habits.
2.It can improve the quality of your sleep.
3.It can help in reducing stress levels.
4.It can help you in maintaining sound health by eliminating sleep inconsistencies from your life.
5. You can gradually overcome poor sleep quality and develop strong and healthy sleeping habits that can stand you in good stead.

Below are mentioned few resources to help you further improving the quality of your sleep so that you can have more energy everyday.

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Tips To Develop Listening Skills

Developing listening skills are very important for various reasons. Here are some of the many benefits you get out of becoming a good listener.


Benefits of being a good listener:
1. When you listen to the other person with full attention, it shows that you are giving respect to the person. By giving the person respect, you gain his respect and love.

2. The other guy inturn will listen carefully to what you have got to say.

3. Listening skills will help you in knowing more about the person which can be helpful in your professional life as well as personal life. ( Imagine the benefits if you can know and understand your boss, colleagues, customers, spouse, friends, neighbours etc. better).

4. By knowing more about the other person, you increase your chances of making friends with him/her. You endear yourself in their eyes.

5.You can improve relationships with people by being a good and sympathetic listener to their concerns and problems.

6. Listening skills help in improving conversation skills, and you can avoid many confusions, misunderstandings and conflicts if only you develop the willingness to lend more attentive ears to the speaker.

Now that you know some of the benefits of listening skills, read below a few tips to help you become a good listener:

1. Be willing to become a good listener:
In order to become a good listener, the first step is to develop the willingness. If you are not willing to do something you will not make the effort. In order to develop willingness, understand the benefits of becoming a good listener. Read the above benefits and try to realize their importance.


2. Respect the other person:
Unless you respect the other person, you will be unwilling to lend an attentive ear to him/her. If you develop the habit of respecting everyone, you may find that people start respecting you more too. In addition to respect, also try to develop genuine interest and liking for people. This will add warmth to your interactions with them.


3. Focus completely on the speaker:
Focus on the speaker and what is being said rather than thinking or composing your own reply, otherwise you will miss many of the things the speaker is saying.


4. Face the speaker, nod your head and provide visual cues that you are paying attention to him/her.


5.Dont interrupt: Let the speaker finish his statement before you reply. If you want to interrupt the speaker or raise a point, be patient till you get a chance.


6. Give oral encouragements like "I see", "I understand", "I agree" etc. which will send signals to the speaker that you are really listening to him or her.



7. Occasionally summarize and repeat back in your own words what you understand of what they’re saying so that they know you’re hearing them and also to prevent any misunderstandings and confusion. Summarizing what you have understood of the other person can help in confirming that you have got the message correctly, or else - if you had misunderstood the message the other person can correct his/her stand immediately.



8. If you wish to remember a certain piece of information which the speaker is saying, repeat it back immediately and aloud. Then, as soon as its convenient, write down that information which you want to remember.



9. While at a meeting or conference, take notes.
This will help you in remembering key information. The notes can also be helpful for discussions at that meeting.



10. Even if the speaker becomes silent for some time or is thinking of something, dont try to rush and fill up the silence. Give the speaker a chance to compose his/her thought.


11. Ask questions:
Asking questions is a very effective way of showing that you are paying attention. It also helps in keeping the conversation alive and can provide opportunity for further discussions on a particular topic.


12. Try to be relaxed:
Whether you are standing or sitting, try to be relaxed and comfortable so that you can pay better attention to the speaker. If you feel discomfort, then it is likely to distract your attention.


13. Give proper feedback:
People sometimes would be interested in your opinion about a topic. Provide an honest feedback whenever you are asked or where it is appropriate.


14. Develop interest in the other person:
Become curious about the person with whom you are talking. Being curious about another person helps to validate that person as interesting. On the other hand, showing indifference will give the impression that the speaker is uninteresting and boring. By becoming curious about the other person, you will find that most of the above mentioned listening tips come automatically to you.


15. While asking questions, try not to ask more than one question at a time. Give him/her chance to respond to one question before throwing another one at him/her.


When Should You Stop Listening?
You also need to know when to stop listening. Having good listening skills does not mean that you allow others to waste too much of your time, or encourage them to indulge in useless gossip, running down other people or complaining of life's problems etc. You have to know when to stop encouraging the person if he/she crosses reasonable limits.


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Easy Anger Management Technique

If you have a wild temper and want to tame it, here is a simple technique to help you eliminate the habit of anger.

Find out something that you love doing. It can be any activity like fishing, gardening, swimming, cooking, going for a walk, stitching. Any activity which keeps you busy, which you enjoy doing and which can take your mind off anger for some time will do.

Now after you have chosen an activity that suits you best, make sure you keep doing it every time you fell anger building up within you. Move away for some time from the situation or person that is making you angry and use this time to indulge in your chosen activity, long enough till the anger vanishes. If you keep doing this, the frequency of your temper outbursts is likely to get reduced. Eventually you can become more controlled and can conquer your anger habit quite easily.


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Friday, February 9, 2007

How To Deal With Negative People

You may have a friend or relative who is always complaining about something or the other. Such complainers are usually negative people who look for fault in everything and everybody. They do not know how to enjoy life and sulk over the minutest of things. They have little confidence in their themselves and may also try to discourage others.


If you just listen to them silently go with their complaints, it can affect your thinking also. If you try to stop them, they may take offense. Even trying to reason with them may not help much. So what can you do if you run into such people?

The best way would be not to argue with them in order to bring them out of their negativity. Instead, respond to them with your own optimistic views. Listen calmly to their complaints then give a positive response. After some time they too may start seeing the positive side of things. Even if they are unwilling to accept your positive views, atleast they will stop bothering you. This approach is far better than mere arguing with them to adopt more positive outlook.


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How to learn new skills fast

People who mimic the actions of successful people can learn similar skills very quickly. If you want to improve yourself in a particular area, look for and identify people who are successful in that area. Then choose 3 of their activities that seem to be highly effective.

Mimic those 3 activities as much as possible during the day. While sleeping att night, our brains rewire new skills based on what we did during the day so that they can become part of our future responses in similar situations.

So choose 3 of the best actions, habits, strategies etc. of succesful people in your chosen field and keep repeating those actions till they become a habit with you. This is a real fast way of learning new skills skipping a lot of trial and error.


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Easy tip to make people like you

Here is a simple tip to make people to like you. Whenever you are conversing with someone, find something about them which you like. It could be anything - their smile, the way they stand,
their walk, their confidence, their neat appearance etc. Just find something which you genuinely like and appreciate.

While talking to them, focus on the thing which you like about them. This appreciation will reflect in your eyes and people will start liking you almost instantly.

If you don't believe this technique is so effective, recall a time when you saw real appreciation for yourself in the eyes of somebody else and remember how you wonderful you felt. Others are likely to feel the same way.


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Tips for Dealing With Aggressive People & Handling Difficult People

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You may encounter agressive and difficult people at workplace, among friends,relatives, neighbours etc. If you have to deal with such people on a regular basis and don't know how to deal with them properly then it might be cause you considerable amount of stress and discomfort. Below are a few tips to help you deal with them in a better manner:

Some Don'ts:

Lets first discuss the don'ts which you have to guard against while dealing with difficult people.

1. First and foremost don't take their behaviour personally. Most of them behave in a difficult manner habitually and their attitude is not directed specifically towards you alone.

2. Don't try to fight with them. Fighting with them may only complicate matters further and can pave the way for a bigger argument.

3. Dont try to win the argument: Dont approach the argument with the mindset of winning it and proving the other person wrong. You may prove them wrong but that is unlikely to change their future behaviour. Instead of trying to win the argument, try to work towards a reasonable solution which will be in the best interests of everyone concerned. Remember your goal is simply to assertively express your own opinion, not try and win a battle of right and wrong.



How to cope with difficult people:

Now that we have seen some of the dont's, lets see some tips about what to do when people are making life difficult for us.


1. Overly aggressive people expect others to either submit to their wishes or to fight against them. So dont do either of those. Instead, stand up for yourself without fighting. Be calm and polite with them and do not shout back. Remaining calm and composed inspite of their shouting is the best response you can give to difficult people. They will usually not expect such behaviour and would be suprised.


2. Wait for them to run out of some steam, then respond with your views in a polite yet firm and confident manner. Its important that you don't interrupt them in the middle of their speech which can make them more angry. Instead wait calmly for them to finish, then take a deep breath, call the person by name and express your opinion. This is a far more effective approach.

Keep in mind that dealing with difficult people takes time,so be patient. You may not be able to change their behaviour but using the above tips you can atleast improve your own response and can stop letting their behaviour affect you negatively.

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Tuesday, February 6, 2007

How to have a conversation effortlessly

Do you find it difficult to keep a conversation going? Do you feel awkward and tongue-tied while meeting new people?

Below are some tips to help you improve social interaction skills:


1. Be knowledgeable:
First and foremost you should have atleast some sort of knowledge about different topics. For that you have to be a voracious reader. It has been said that "readers are leaders." A person who develops the habit of reading will know something about many different topics and can hold conversations with many people of different backgrounds and interests.

People who keep themselves updated about trade news, health and environmental information, current affairs etc. rarely find themselves struggling to keep up a conversation. So invest some time in increasing your knowledge.


2. Ask open ended questions:
Instead of asking close-ended questions which can be answered by yes or no, ask open-ended questions which will force the other person to respond in a more elaborate manner.

If you find that you do not have any topics to talk about, you can use this simple technique to keep the conversation active - make the other person speak as much as possible.

Using this technique you can keep a conversation alive and kicking for a long time without putting any pressure on yourself to come up with new things to say. To keep the other person talking ask open-ended questions. Simple!


3. Make an effort to be a good listener:
Listen to the other person's response. Often you can learn a lot about the other person by listening to his/her words carefully. It would certainly help in improving your social interaction skills if you fight the urge to respond immediately and instead really listen to what the other person is trying to communicate.



4. Pay attention to small details:
Ask people about their kids, what school do they study in,ask them about their weekend plans or about their home or relatives. These small details inform you a lot about the other person's life and it shows genuine care and interest on your part for that person.

This can help in making him/her warm up to you. This technique will also provide you with enough things to talk about while conversing with that person.


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Saturday, February 3, 2007

Strength of a man

The strength of a man isn't seen in the width of his shoulders,
Its seen in the width of his arms which circle you.

The strength of a man isn't in the deep tone of his voice,
Its in the gentle words he whispers.

The strength of a man isn't in how many buddies he has,
Its how good a buddy he is with his kids.

The strength of a man isn't in how respected he is at work,
Its in how much respected he is at home.

The strength of a man isn't in how hard he hits,
Its in how tender he touches.

The strength of a man isn't in the hair on his chest,
Its in his heart.. that lies within his chest.

The strength of a man isn't in the weights he can lift,
Its in the burdens he can carry.


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Friday, February 2, 2007

Be prepared to reap what you sow

Ponder over the following lines, they hold great wisdom and knowledge for us. Try to cultivate the positive traits mentioned below and avoid the negative ones.

If you plant honesty, you will reap trust.
If you plant goodness, you will reap friends.
If you plant humility, you will reap greatness.
If you plant perseverance, you will reap victory.
If you plant consideration, you will reap harmony.
If you plant hard work, you will reap success.
If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation.
If you plant openness, you will reap intimacy.
If you plant patience, you will reap improvements.

But:

If you plant dishonesty, you will reap distrust.
If you plant selfishness, you will reap loneliness.
If you plant pride, you will reap destruction.
If you plant envy, you will reap trouble.
If you plant laziness, you will reap stagnation.
If you plant bitterness, you will reap isolation.
If you plant greed, you will reap loss.
If you plant gossip, you will reap enemies.
If you plant worries, you will reap wrinkles.
If you plant sin, you will reap guilt.

So consider what you are planting now, it will determine what you will reap tomorrow.


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3 Easy Steps to Benefit From Failures

Failures are said to be stepping stones to success, but they can only be so when you learn from them and avoid them in the future. It is bad enough to fail, but worse if you do not learn from failure. You can make each failure count by learning something from it.

How can you learn from failure? I am providing below 3 simple steps which can be used to make each failure count, so that you are better prepared next time.

Step 1 : Analyze Your Fears: Whenever you fail, take a piece of paper and write down atleast 3-5 important lessons that you learned from this failure. This exercise will force you to ponder on your failures and focus on lessons from them which you may have otherwise missed.



Step 2: Move on: Now that you have learned some things from your failure, its time to forget about it and move on in life. Don't dwell on your past mistakes. If anytime thoughts of past failures come to your mind, read from the paper and recall the lessons you have learnt from these mistakes. Reminding yourself of the lessons learnt from your mistakes helps in taking your mind off the failure and instead dwell on the positive side (i.e. the lessons learnt).



Step 3: Do not be afraid to try out new things: Now that you have learnt something from your mistakes and are better prepared than before, use these lessons while attempting similar things in the future. When you keep in mind the lessons learnt from previous mistakes, you lessen your fear of trying out new things because you know that you are now more prepared than earlier.


Use the above 3 steps for any major failure or mistake you have made in your life whether it is in professional or personal life. Failures, though bitter, help us to learn and grow. But we can derive positive effects from failure only when we make an effort to learn from them and improve ourselves.

If you still feel negative or resentful of your failures, think about a time when you achieved some worthwhile success. Think about how many times you failed and how many mistakes you made before finally succeeding. This will help you realize that failures are a part of learning curve and there will be obstacles and dissapointments along the way of most endeavours you undertake. Learn to accept them as part of life and use the above 3 steps to benefit from failures rather than getting disheartened about them. Download free E-book about success and failure by clicking - here.


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