Friday, February 9, 2007

How to learn new skills fast

People who mimic the actions of successful people can learn similar skills very quickly. If you want to improve yourself in a particular area, look for and identify people who are successful in that area. Then choose 3 of their activities that seem to be highly effective.

Mimic those 3 activities as much as possible during the day. While sleeping att night, our brains rewire new skills based on what we did during the day so that they can become part of our future responses in similar situations.

So choose 3 of the best actions, habits, strategies etc. of succesful people in your chosen field and keep repeating those actions till they become a habit with you. This is a real fast way of learning new skills skipping a lot of trial and error.


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Easy tip to make people like you

Here is a simple tip to make people to like you. Whenever you are conversing with someone, find something about them which you like. It could be anything - their smile, the way they stand,
their walk, their confidence, their neat appearance etc. Just find something which you genuinely like and appreciate.

While talking to them, focus on the thing which you like about them. This appreciation will reflect in your eyes and people will start liking you almost instantly.

If you don't believe this technique is so effective, recall a time when you saw real appreciation for yourself in the eyes of somebody else and remember how you wonderful you felt. Others are likely to feel the same way.


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Tips for Dealing With Aggressive People & Handling Difficult People

Before reading this article, check out this resource: Ultimate Guide to Job Interview Answers  
 
You may encounter agressive and difficult people at workplace, among friends,relatives, neighbours etc. If you have to deal with such people on a regular basis and don't know how to deal with them properly then it might be cause you considerable amount of stress and discomfort. Below are a few tips to help you deal with them in a better manner:

Some Don'ts:

Lets first discuss the don'ts which you have to guard against while dealing with difficult people.

1. First and foremost don't take their behaviour personally. Most of them behave in a difficult manner habitually and their attitude is not directed specifically towards you alone.

2. Don't try to fight with them. Fighting with them may only complicate matters further and can pave the way for a bigger argument.

3. Dont try to win the argument: Dont approach the argument with the mindset of winning it and proving the other person wrong. You may prove them wrong but that is unlikely to change their future behaviour. Instead of trying to win the argument, try to work towards a reasonable solution which will be in the best interests of everyone concerned. Remember your goal is simply to assertively express your own opinion, not try and win a battle of right and wrong.



How to cope with difficult people:

Now that we have seen some of the dont's, lets see some tips about what to do when people are making life difficult for us.


1. Overly aggressive people expect others to either submit to their wishes or to fight against them. So dont do either of those. Instead, stand up for yourself without fighting. Be calm and polite with them and do not shout back. Remaining calm and composed inspite of their shouting is the best response you can give to difficult people. They will usually not expect such behaviour and would be suprised.


2. Wait for them to run out of some steam, then respond with your views in a polite yet firm and confident manner. Its important that you don't interrupt them in the middle of their speech which can make them more angry. Instead wait calmly for them to finish, then take a deep breath, call the person by name and express your opinion. This is a far more effective approach.

Keep in mind that dealing with difficult people takes time,so be patient. You may not be able to change their behaviour but using the above tips you can atleast improve your own response and can stop letting their behaviour affect you negatively.

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Tuesday, February 6, 2007

How to have a conversation effortlessly

Do you find it difficult to keep a conversation going? Do you feel awkward and tongue-tied while meeting new people?

Below are some tips to help you improve social interaction skills:


1. Be knowledgeable:
First and foremost you should have atleast some sort of knowledge about different topics. For that you have to be a voracious reader. It has been said that "readers are leaders." A person who develops the habit of reading will know something about many different topics and can hold conversations with many people of different backgrounds and interests.

People who keep themselves updated about trade news, health and environmental information, current affairs etc. rarely find themselves struggling to keep up a conversation. So invest some time in increasing your knowledge.


2. Ask open ended questions:
Instead of asking close-ended questions which can be answered by yes or no, ask open-ended questions which will force the other person to respond in a more elaborate manner.

If you find that you do not have any topics to talk about, you can use this simple technique to keep the conversation active - make the other person speak as much as possible.

Using this technique you can keep a conversation alive and kicking for a long time without putting any pressure on yourself to come up with new things to say. To keep the other person talking ask open-ended questions. Simple!


3. Make an effort to be a good listener:
Listen to the other person's response. Often you can learn a lot about the other person by listening to his/her words carefully. It would certainly help in improving your social interaction skills if you fight the urge to respond immediately and instead really listen to what the other person is trying to communicate.



4. Pay attention to small details:
Ask people about their kids, what school do they study in,ask them about their weekend plans or about their home or relatives. These small details inform you a lot about the other person's life and it shows genuine care and interest on your part for that person.

This can help in making him/her warm up to you. This technique will also provide you with enough things to talk about while conversing with that person.


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Saturday, February 3, 2007

Strength of a man

The strength of a man isn't seen in the width of his shoulders,
Its seen in the width of his arms which circle you.

The strength of a man isn't in the deep tone of his voice,
Its in the gentle words he whispers.

The strength of a man isn't in how many buddies he has,
Its how good a buddy he is with his kids.

The strength of a man isn't in how respected he is at work,
Its in how much respected he is at home.

The strength of a man isn't in how hard he hits,
Its in how tender he touches.

The strength of a man isn't in the hair on his chest,
Its in his heart.. that lies within his chest.

The strength of a man isn't in the weights he can lift,
Its in the burdens he can carry.


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Friday, February 2, 2007

Be prepared to reap what you sow

Ponder over the following lines, they hold great wisdom and knowledge for us. Try to cultivate the positive traits mentioned below and avoid the negative ones.

If you plant honesty, you will reap trust.
If you plant goodness, you will reap friends.
If you plant humility, you will reap greatness.
If you plant perseverance, you will reap victory.
If you plant consideration, you will reap harmony.
If you plant hard work, you will reap success.
If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation.
If you plant openness, you will reap intimacy.
If you plant patience, you will reap improvements.

But:

If you plant dishonesty, you will reap distrust.
If you plant selfishness, you will reap loneliness.
If you plant pride, you will reap destruction.
If you plant envy, you will reap trouble.
If you plant laziness, you will reap stagnation.
If you plant bitterness, you will reap isolation.
If you plant greed, you will reap loss.
If you plant gossip, you will reap enemies.
If you plant worries, you will reap wrinkles.
If you plant sin, you will reap guilt.

So consider what you are planting now, it will determine what you will reap tomorrow.


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3 Easy Steps to Benefit From Failures

Failures are said to be stepping stones to success, but they can only be so when you learn from them and avoid them in the future. It is bad enough to fail, but worse if you do not learn from failure. You can make each failure count by learning something from it.

How can you learn from failure? I am providing below 3 simple steps which can be used to make each failure count, so that you are better prepared next time.

Step 1 : Analyze Your Fears: Whenever you fail, take a piece of paper and write down atleast 3-5 important lessons that you learned from this failure. This exercise will force you to ponder on your failures and focus on lessons from them which you may have otherwise missed.



Step 2: Move on: Now that you have learned some things from your failure, its time to forget about it and move on in life. Don't dwell on your past mistakes. If anytime thoughts of past failures come to your mind, read from the paper and recall the lessons you have learnt from these mistakes. Reminding yourself of the lessons learnt from your mistakes helps in taking your mind off the failure and instead dwell on the positive side (i.e. the lessons learnt).



Step 3: Do not be afraid to try out new things: Now that you have learnt something from your mistakes and are better prepared than before, use these lessons while attempting similar things in the future. When you keep in mind the lessons learnt from previous mistakes, you lessen your fear of trying out new things because you know that you are now more prepared than earlier.


Use the above 3 steps for any major failure or mistake you have made in your life whether it is in professional or personal life. Failures, though bitter, help us to learn and grow. But we can derive positive effects from failure only when we make an effort to learn from them and improve ourselves.

If you still feel negative or resentful of your failures, think about a time when you achieved some worthwhile success. Think about how many times you failed and how many mistakes you made before finally succeeding. This will help you realize that failures are a part of learning curve and there will be obstacles and dissapointments along the way of most endeavours you undertake. Learn to accept them as part of life and use the above 3 steps to benefit from failures rather than getting disheartened about them. Download free E-book about success and failure by clicking - here.


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